Ke$ha, i am extremely disappointed in you, and that makes me sad
I love ke$ha. i dressed in drag as Ke$ha for halloween. my ipod has over 100 of her songs on it and i listen to it all the time, and even on halloween i got into a huge debate about her vs. katy perry, and how i find katy perry to be abhorrent and offensive and ke$ha to actually be talented and funny, and now this new album comes out and i was really excited about the fact that we r who we r was a shout out to all the queer kids who killed themselves recently, but then i got to grow a pear and felt spun out and upset.
i get what she's trying to say. i get that the whole song is that she wants a man to be big and strong and brave and manly, because she likes that in a guy, but what comes across is total transphobia.
a good deal of my best friends are "guys with a vag" and it sucks to hear them be talked about in such a denigrating fashion. all that aside, it's okay to talk about how you like manly men, but to put down femme guys only furthers the whole queer struggle that led these kids to kill themselves. it's all the same lack of acceptance for people who can't live up to the societal expectation of what it means to be "a man."
the thing that sucks the most about messages like this though(other than the blatant transphobic undertones), are that it trickles down deeper, and even separates the queer community from itself. it creates a higher place in its caste system for "straight acting" boys and leaves the ones who are a little more flaming so to speak left out even in their own community.
ke$ha has already broken records for being the first female artist to debut a single at number one, and i hope that she will keep setting the standard of being a record breaking artist by being the first one to publicly stand up and say "hey, i wrote this song and i meant one thing, but now that's been pointed out to me, i can totally see how this message can cause way more harm than good, and i'm pulling it from my album, because artists and media figures need to be held accountable for what they are saying and doing."
i hope you hear this, ke$ha, and take it to heart. i love you and i'm not judging you, i'm just worried about the repercussions of someone in your position putting a song like this into an already hateful world.